Welcome to a safe, non-judgemental therapeutic space for transgender, non-binary, intersex, and gender-questioning people, and for people supporting them.
Wondering
if you're really trans?
Unsure what it might mean for you....
Ko Ahilty te Maunga
ko Achonachie te Moana
ko Mooltan te Waka
ko McLay te Iwi
ko Nicola taku ingoa.
He wahine whakawhiti wahine moepuku ma ("transbian") ahau no Kotimana, Welsh me te pakeha. I te tekau tau atu i 1800 ka noho oku tupuna ki Aotearoa. He neuro-divergent ahau (he tino mahi autistic me te ADHD). Ko taku autism i hanga ahau hei aukume whakaweti.
Ua paari au i roto i te fare o te hoê Orometua Pentecostal. He ngawari, he atawhai oku matua (ahakoa he tino rahui a Papa). Heoi, i mau ratou me ta matou Hahi i nga whakapono e pa ana ki te ira tangata, na te mea i tino koha ahau i roto, a, i paopao ahau ki a koe ano me te mauahara. Ko tenei, nui atu i te mahi whakaweti, i tino whakapouri i ahau, a ka tae ki te 54 oku tau mo te mea ka taea te whakawhiti hei whakaaro whakaaro. E ono tau ano kia houhia te rongo me te whakawhiti me etahi atu e rima ka puta ki te iwi whanui. Heoi kei te noho hohonu ahau ki te taha wairua. He Pariha Mihinare ahau i Tamaki Makaurau (Tamaki Makaurau) kei reira ahau hei Vicar ki tetahi huihuinga Mihinare (Episcopalian) maha me te awhina hoki ki te arahi i tetahi huihuinga LGBTQIA+.
Na kei te mohio ahau ki te rangirua me te uaua o te haerenga o te tangata. A kei te mohio ahau ki te "whakawhitinga" (no nga roopu iti ake i te kotahi).
He korero taku mo te Tiaki Aged (Dementia and Palliative). Ko taku tohu paetahi kei roto i te kaupapa ako i te taha Wairua. I muri mai ka oti i ahau tetahi Tohu Paetahi i roto i te Tikanga Tikanga (Pastoral) me te Tohu Paetahi mo te Haua me te Hauora Hinengaro. I nga ra o te wiki, i te mea kaore au i te whakangungu, ka tautoko ahau i nga tangata whai wheako o te hauatanga hinengaro.
Ahakoa he tangata LGBTQI++ koe e rapu ana mo te whakahoa me te tautoko hononga, he tangata whakawhiti, he tangata torotoro ira tangata ranei e rapu tautoko ana i to haerenga, he hoa ranei, he mema o te whanau, he kaituku mahi, he rata, he hoa ranei e tautoko ana i tetahi atu, ka koa ahau ki te hoa haere i a koe i to haerenga.
Nicola Sian Frater (ko ia/ratou)
I understand. I can help.
Get in touch.
You know you're trans but have questions about where to from here...
Want to know how to support a friend or family member on their trans journey?
I'm trans,
where to from here?
Do I go on hormones?
What about surgery?
How do I come out?
Will people accept me?
Will I lose my job?
Who can I talk to?
My child just told me,
"I'm trans!"
Is this just a phase?
Is it peer pressure?
How do I talk to them?
I'm afraid for my child.
Will they be happy?
