Welcome to a safe, non-judgemental therapeutic space for transgender, non-binary, intersex, and gender-questioning people, and for people supporting them.
Wondering
if you're really trans?
Unsure what it might mean for you....
Ko Ahilty te Maunga
ko Achonachie te Moana
ko Mooltan te Waka
ko McLay te Iwi
ko Nicola taku igoa.
O a'u o se fafine pa'epa'e fa'afeusuaiga fa'afeusuaiga (“transbian”) e tupuga mai Sikotilani, Uelese ma le Igilisi. Na aumau ou tuaa i Aotearoa Niu Sila i le 1800s. O aʻu o le neuro-divergent (maualuga le galue autistic ma le ADHD). O loʻu autism na avea ai aʻu ma maneta taufaamataʻu.
Na ou ola aʻe i le fale o se Faifeʻau Penetekoso. O oʻu matua e agamalu ma agalelei (e ui o Tama sa matua faʻapolopolo). Ae ui i lea sa latou umia ma la tatou Ekalesia ni talitonuga e uiga i itupa lea na ou lagona ai le matua sese i totonu ma taitai atu ai i le loloto o le teenaina o le tagata lava ia ma le inoino ia te ia lava. O lenei mea, e sili atu nai lo le faʻamalosi, na matua faʻalavelaveina aʻu ma na ave ai aʻu seia oʻo i le 54 oʻu tausaga e oʻo lava i le avanoa o le faʻaliliuina e avea o se mafaufauga mafaufau. Na alu le isi ono tausaga na faia ai le filemu ma le trans ma le isi lima na faʻaalia faalauaitele. Ae ou te tumau pea i le loloto faaleagaga. O aʻu o se Faifeau Anglican Parish i Tamaki Makaurau (Aukilani) lea o loʻo avea ai aʻu ma Vicar i se faʻapotopotoga Anglican (Episcopalian) e tele aganuʻu ma fesoasoani foi e taʻitaʻia se aulotu LGBTQIA +.
O lea ua ou malamalama ai i le le mautonu ma le faigata o le malaga a le tagata. Ma ou te malamalama i le "intersectionality" (e aofia i le sili atu ma le tasi le vaega faʻaitiitiga).
E iai lo'u talaaga i le Aged Care (Dementia and Palliative). O loʻu tikeri maualalo o loʻo i le aʻoaʻoga faʻapitoa i le Agaga. Mulimuli ane na ou faamaeaina le Grad Dip in Practical (Pastoral) Theology ma le Post Grad Dip in Disability and Mental Health. I aso o le vaiaso, pe a le faia aʻoaʻoga, ou te lagolagoina tagata e iai le poto masani o le mafaufau.
Pe o oe o se LGBTQI++ tagata suʻe mo tafaoga faamasani ma fesoʻotaʻiga lagolago, se tagata suʻesuʻe poʻo se itupa e suʻe se lagolago i lau faigamalaga, pe o se paaga, tagata o le aiga, tagata faigaluega, fomaʻi, poʻo se uo e lagolagoina se isi tagata, ou te faʻamanuiaina e faʻafeiloaʻi oe i lau malaga.
Nicola Sian Frater (ia/latou)
I understand. I can help.
Get in touch.
You know you're trans but have questions about where to from here...
Want to know how to support a friend or family member on their trans journey?
I'm trans,
where to from here?
Do I go on hormones?
What about surgery?
How do I come out?
Will people accept me?
Will I lose my job?
Who can I talk to?
My child just told me,
"I'm trans!"
Is this just a phase?
Is it peer pressure?
How do I talk to them?
I'm afraid for my child.
Will they be happy?
