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Trans Support

Ko Ahilty te Maunga

ko Achonachie te Moana

ko Mooltan te Waka

ko McLay te Iwi

ko Nicola taku igoa.

O a'u o se fafine pa'epa'e fa'afeusuaiga fa'afeusuaiga (“transbian”) e tupuga mai Sikotilani, Uelese ma le Igilisi. Na aumau ou tuaa i Aotearoa Niu Sila i le 1800s. O aʻu o le neuro-divergent (maualuga le galue autistic ma le ADHD). O loʻu autism na avea ai aʻu ma maneta taufaamataʻu.

Na ou ola aʻe i le fale o se Faifeʻau Penetekoso. O oʻu matua e agamalu ma agalelei (e ui o Tama sa matua faʻapolopolo). Ae ui i lea sa latou umia ma la tatou Ekalesia ni talitonuga e uiga i itupa lea na ou lagona ai le matua sese i totonu ma taitai atu ai i le loloto o le teenaina o le tagata lava ia ma le inoino ia te ia lava. O lenei mea, e sili atu nai lo le faʻamalosi, na matua faʻalavelaveina aʻu ma na ave ai aʻu seia oʻo i le 54 oʻu tausaga e oʻo lava i le avanoa o le faʻaliliuina e avea o se mafaufauga mafaufau. Na alu le isi ono tausaga na faia ai le filemu ma le trans ma le isi lima na faʻaalia faalauaitele. Ae ou te tumau pea i le loloto faaleagaga. O aʻu o se Faifeau Anglican Parish i Tamaki Makaurau (Aukilani) lea o loʻo avea ai aʻu ma Vicar i se faʻapotopotoga Anglican (Episcopalian) e tele aganuʻu ma fesoasoani foi e taʻitaʻia se aulotu LGBTQIA +.

O lea ua ou malamalama ai i le le mautonu ma le faigata o le malaga a le tagata. Ma ou te malamalama i le "intersectionality" (e aofia i le sili atu ma le tasi le vaega faʻaitiitiga).

E iai lo'u talaaga i le Aged Care (Dementia and Palliative). O loʻu tikeri maualalo o loʻo i le aʻoaʻoga faʻapitoa i le Agaga. Mulimuli ane na ou faamaeaina le Grad Dip in Practical (Pastoral) Theology ma le Post Grad Dip in Disability and Mental Health. I aso o le vaiaso, pe a le faia aʻoaʻoga, ou te lagolagoina tagata e iai le poto masani o le mafaufau.


Pe o oe o se LGBTQI++ tagata suʻe mo tafaoga faamasani ma fesoʻotaʻiga lagolago, se tagata suʻesuʻe poʻo se itupa e suʻe se lagolago i lau faigamalaga, pe o se paaga, tagata o le aiga, tagata faigaluega, fomaʻi, poʻo se uo e lagolagoina se isi tagata, ou te faʻamanuiaina e faʻafeiloaʻi oe i lau malaga.

Nicola Sian Frater (ia/latou)

I'm trans.
Where do I go from here?

  • Do I go on hormones?

  • Do I want surgery?

  • How will people judge me?

  • Will people still accept me?

  • I can't live like this anymore

  • How do I come out?

  • Who do I tell first?

  • Will I lose my job?

  • Who can I talk to? 

My child just told me, "I'm trans!"
I need help.

  • Is my child really trans or is this just a phase?

  • Is it peer pressure?

  • How do I talk to them?

  • What will my parent's say?
    How will my partner's parents react?

  • I'm trying to respect my child but my partner is quite dismissive. 
    I don't know what to do. 

  • I'm afraid for my child.

    • What kind of future will they have?​

    • Will they be happy?

    • How will they be treated at school?

  • I know they need someone else to talk to.
    Who can I trust?

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